First Year of Marriage

How to Get Through the First Year of Marriage

The first year of marriage can be a challenge for some and a blessing for others.

Steps

1. Move on from the past. Yes, this phrase is used broadly and can be irritating but there is so much truth in this. Before you were married, you had a single life. Now the rings are on the fingers and the vows have been said, and thus starts your new life with your new spouse. All transgressions and arguments once had should be forgiven and left in the past.

2. Keep your friends. No one says you have to give up your friends, and if they are single, be aware of possible jealousy. Single friends are hard to keep because they want what you have. Not all friends are bad but remember you are into some uncharted waters in your relationship. Your goals and dreams are not just yours anymore.

3. Remember to work as a team. This includes money and responsibilities. Keep in mind to play to your strengths if one partner is better and budgets and bills that could be a responsibility. It takes two to make the money and spend it. All big purchases should be discussed in advance. Housework is another issue in most marriages. If one partner chooses to stay at home while the other partner works it is okay to cook and clean. If both of you work, you need to share the load. A tidy home creates an environment of peace. No one wants to live in a dirty house or come home every day to messiness.

4. Communicate. There is no telling that communication is one of the most important elements of a successful marriage. By talking daily about the things that matter and need to be discussed, you open the channel for effective conversation..

5. Put your family first. You're a family now, and you also need to respect your in-laws. This one can be difficult, but kill them with kindness when given the chance. Remember that without your in-laws you would not have your loved one. Also, keep in close contact with your parents.

6. Have sex. Sex is important in many marital relationships because it binds the two of you together. Sex is a great way to stay connected and fervent about your spouse, so ensure that it is an integral part of the relationship. Sex is not the be all and end all. Many people have happy, content marriages without sex and some couples are comfortable including limited sexual activity in their marriage. If you are both happy with your sex life, or lack of it, you can still have a happy marriage that can work just as well as one to where the couple are like rabbits!

Tips

Always make sure the two of you have time alone together.

Never go to bed at night angry.

Warnings

Remember that all married couples fight from time to time. If this happens, give each other breathing space to calm down.